8 hours ago
Wednesday, September 19, 2012
My usual motus operandi is to quickly lose contact with folks after a move, but in the case of my old colleague, I felt separation of any connection with the past and those old wounds was best for me. Thus I have had very little contact with him over the last few years. In fact, the last time that I saw him was about 3 years ago when he traveled to the lab where I work to give a lecture. During his visit we had lunch and chatted for a few hours, yet because we parted when my life was in tatters and this was his last point of reference for our relationship, he returned to that same point. In truth, I did not enjoy the lunch very much because he wanted to talk about things that still caused me pain. The last thing that I wanted to do was talk about the past and rekindle its presence in my mind.
A few weeks ago, my old colleague visited my lab again to attend a multi-day workshop. I knew that he would try to seek me out to say hello and "catch up". When I knew that he would be attending, I stayed far away from any place where I was likely to run into him. I had to protect myself and guard my heart and mind.
Posted by Daniel