- a good provider
- someone who liked to have fun
- someone with a good heart
- a kind person
Actually, I have gotten the sense that as my daughter has gotten older and more independent, I am more a source of frustration to her than a motivational influence. I too often treat her as a kid or try to help her too much or try to take over instead of letting her figure things out. It turns out that I am very much a work in progress. As time marches on I often fret that my daughter still doesn't know that much about my heart and how hard I have tried to give her what I was able to give. Too often it seems that while I wallow in sentimentality, she is just enjoying each day and each new experience. I go below the surface to try to map the depths while she skims happily along the surface. Yet just when I think that I have missed the mark by half a world, she lets me know that she knows me and accepts me and loves me in a way that I finally understand. Then I realize that all along she has loved me the way that I need to be loved.