Thursday, July 19, 2012

Split Personality

There are a couple of people that I know who truly seem to have a type of multiple personality condition. The person that they are at work is completely different from the person that they are on the outside. I don't just mean that they are more responsible or serious at work, I mean that their mannerisms, their rhythm of speaking, the way they carry themselves, their gait, and even how they laugh, is markedly different. If you had me describe the "work" person to one of their friends on the outside, I don't think they would have a clue who I was talking about.

I wonder if this is a symptom of insecurity, that they feel the need to act all formal and wooden to impress others or convince their peers of their professionalism and their rank. As I have seen who they are outside of work, it almost feels that their work version is a pretense, like a green actor who is going through some method acting exercise. However, I do not necessarily get the sense that they are pretending. It is almost as if they arrive at work and put on a costume that they believe is expected of them or they have become conditioned to wear for some reason.

For better or worse, I am the same regardless of the situation I find myself in. Maybe it is just that I don't know any better. But the truth is, it is difficult enough for me to be around other folks, that I do not think I have it within me to try to master more than one persona. Do you exhibit any level of split personality?

12 comments:

Bill (cycleguy) said...

I reckon in some way all pastors exhibit this. There have been times I have not felt like preaching for one reason or another and still do.  I have to push aside what is bothering me and "press on."  is that saying I have a split personality?  BTW: I did have dealings once with a lady who exhibited 7 different people.  

brian miller said...

I think I am different by the situation...if something must get done i can get very focused and less personal...not sayign that is a good thing...just saying...smiles.

Daniel Carman said...

I agree with getting into a zone during high stress and high volume work times, but these folks really act like different people altogether at work than when they are out in the world. I just found it interesting.

Daniel Carman said...

7 people. Sybil-esque!

Bill (cycleguy) said...

 Weird and scary.  What a story!

Stephen Haggerty said...

Very interesting... I've wondered why this can be such a pervasive issue. Also, it's admirable that you don't struggle with this one! Seems best to master the one persona than any others :) 

Daniel Carman said...

Granted this type of split personality behavior that I am alluding to is not particularly common, but I find this fascinating. It would be interesting to learn the root cause. I can only speculate.

Rob Shepherd said...

I have to fight against this. I pray that I am real and the same person no matter who I'm with. Shyness does creep in when I get around certain people that I want to impress...er not look stupid around.

Daniel Carman said...

You seem very consistent to me.

Ricky Anderson said...

Happens to me. Usually around people with accents and unusual mannerisms. I start emulating them, subconsciously. Weird.

Daniel Carman said...

From Ricky Anderson:
Happens to me. Usually around people with accents and unusual mannerisms. I start emulating them, subconsciously. Weird.

Daniel Carman said...

I once spent 3 weeks in The Netherlands and when I came back, I had a bit of a European accent. Plus a taste for good beer.